I have two grown daughters. Shelby is 28 and Emilie is 27—born just 13 months apart. I love my girls fiercely. It is truly my honor and privilege to be their mom.
“Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from Him.” —Psalm 127:3
It hasn’t always been easy. Though close in age, they couldn’t be more different if they tried.
When they were both babies, I remember asking the Lord what they would be when they grew up. I was impatient, longing for a glimpse of their future. And God, in His mercy, answered.
He gave me two words: healing and wisdom.
Shelby, He said, would have the gift of healing. Emilie would speak words of wisdom—words that soothe the soul and bring order to chaos. I heard Him as clearly as if He were standing in the room with me.
Then He told me to lay my hands on them and pray, because the battle for these two would be fierce.
“For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against rulers, against authorities, against the powers of this dark world.” —Ephesians 6:12
Shelby: The Healer Who Had to Fight
Shelby has spent her life battling health issues—both physical and mental. Diagnosed as a baby with chronic ear infections and asthma that hospitalized her multiple times, she quickly became familiar with doctors’ offices and medications.
Later came more diagnoses: neurofibromatosis, social anxiety requiring medication, speech issues from scarring on her eardrums, a hearing disorder, a learning disability, and eventually, as an adult, Asperger’s.
She lives a quiet, responsible, lovely little life with me—working full time and enjoying the small freedom of disposable income for gaming. She’s private about her relationship with God, but I know this: once that girl fully flips the switch and gives everything over to Him, she will be unstoppable.
“The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” —Exodus 14:14
I see the healer God spoke of all those years ago.
She’s quick with a hug or a surprise latte when I’m feeling low. Her homemade chicken soup is nothing short of magic—if someone sniffles, she’s already pulling out the recipe and putting a pot on the stove. She has absolutely fought for her anointing.
Shelby is also brilliant in ways many don’t see. She understands technology intuitively. This past year, she built her own gaming computer from scratch. Watching her play is astounding—her mind moves fast, strategically, brilliantly.
“Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others.” —1 Peter 4:10
She is truly amazing.
Emilie: Wisdom Forged in Loneliness
Emilie has spent her life fighting to be taken seriously.
Tested as a child for ADHD, we learned that while she is ADD, she’s also hyper-intelligent. She is incredibly smart—but not in a traditional, scholarly way. She could have done well in school if she’d applied herself, but to Emilie, book smarts and wisdom didn’t always walk hand in hand.
Friendships were difficult, especially during her teenage years. She wasn’t interested in what typical teen girls were interested in. Dating didn’t appeal to her—she’d seen it destroy too many friendships and create too much drama. Emilie never wanted a boyfriend. She wanted a husband. And a house full of children.
School felt secondary to what mattered most to her: baking, loving her family, her unwavering relationship with God, and her desire to be a wife and mother.
“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all.” —James 1:5
She knew how smart she was—and that made friendships harder. Girls teased her for not having college aspirations. Girls who mocked her seriousness. Girls who told her she was “too wound up” and just needed to loosen up.
Emilie wanted no part of that.
Sleeping around violated her core beliefs, and in her wisdom, she wasn’t afraid to call out unladylike behavior. The cost of that courage was steep. High school was painfully lonely.
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world.” —Romans 12:2
But the price she paid bore fruit.
Today, Emilie has a godly husband from a family rooted deeply in a relationship with Jesus. Together, they are wise with money, and she is able to stay home with their daughter. Slowly and faithfully, they are building her baking business.
She is living the very life she prayed for.
“Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans.” —Proverbs 16:3
When I need advice, I call Emilie. She has wisdom in abundance, and every word she speaks brings clarity, encouragement, and peace.
For the Moms Reading This
Why am I telling you all of this?
Because I am proud—proud as punch—of my girls.
They have been through it. They have fought battles most people never see. And they have paid a high price for their respective anointings.
Healing and wisdom.
God knew exactly what He was doing.
“Being confident of this, that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion.” —Philippians 1:6
Mama, if you’re in the thick of it—if your child’s path looks harder, lonelier, or more confusing than you imagined—don’t stop praying. Don’t stop blessing them. Don’t stop believing that God sees what you can’t yet see.
Lay hands on your children.
Speak life over them.
Pray boldly over their calling.
Their struggle may very well be guarding their anointing.
And one day, you’ll look back and realize:
God was faithful all along.




